Video lesson

There’s power in surrender and understanding the limits of what we can control — and a peace that can come from being willing to just go along for the ride.

Reflection questions

  • What are some things that are beyond your personal control in life right now?  
  • How do you feel when you’re in a situation when you’re not in control?
  • What are some ways you can learn to let go of control? (For ideas, visit

Exercise: Use positive affirmations

Affirmations are positive statements that you regularly repeat to yourself that can help keep negative thoughts and behaviours at bay. If you find your mind fixating on possible outcomes of an uncertain situation, try a positive affirmation to bring yourself back to the present moment and to help you let go of trying to control the uncontrollable.

The Serenity Prayer is a great example: “Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

Find one that works for you, write it on a sticky note and post it somewhere you’ll see often. Get into the habit of reciting your affirmation while brushing your teeth in the morning. Take a photo of your affirmation and set it as the background for your phone.

For inspiration, Google “affirmations for letting go.”

Tools and tips from around the web

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Let Go of Control: How to Learn the Art of Surrender

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